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Jeremy Ray Ross's avatar

Rejection is the obstacle and the obstacle is the way. We must detach rejection with feelings of self worth, but rather focus on improving our craft to be so good we cannot be ignored. This is the way.

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Adam Ming's avatar

And even when we become ‘so good’ rejection is still lurking at every thing you do as a possibility!

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Jeremy Ray Ross's avatar

Correct, because if not, it would just be too easy.

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Rebecca J. Gomez's avatar

I remember that rejection is the only thing you can count on in this business, and that the sting is worth the reward in the end.

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Adam Ming's avatar

I know many successful artist who collect rejections as a badge of honor

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Rebecca J. Gomez's avatar

My daughter has been submitting a lot of poetry lately, and every time she gets a rejection I congratulate her!

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Rebecca J. Gomez's avatar

Oh I should add that eventually all those rejections led to me improving my craft and getting six book deals, and hopefully more in the future. 😊

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Adam Ming's avatar

Rejections are the best for on of feedback, even if they do need some deciphering

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Jeremy Ray Ross's avatar

That’s awesome! 👏

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Cara Gormally's avatar

For me, being in touch with my “why” is critical. I’m not doing this for other people, I’m doing this because it’s something I need to do. And like you said, Jeremy, it’s not connected to my worth. Knowing that helps me understand rejection is not personal.

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Katherine Bettis's avatar

I just assume I will be rejected and move on to the next project while I'm waiting for the rejection. Every day I wonder why I keep trying.

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Adam Ming's avatar

Why is such a great question!

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Rebecca J. Gomez's avatar

I think we all ask ourselves that at one point or another. We keep trying because we want it that bad! Or (and?) because we’re going to be creating anyway, so why not? Haha

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Katherine Bettis's avatar

Yes, exactly. I tell myself, why not? lol

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Jeremy Ray Ross's avatar

Perhaps you should be surprised by the rejection because you’re so damn good!

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Gunja Bhatt's avatar

When sending out for any opportunity, my rules are “no strings attached” and “let me try and fly” ….this helps me just keep no matter if I receive Yes/No ? Because if I’m not flying, I’m grounded for better reason and best opportunities than the one I thought I could work on. Am I making even sense here!? I don’t know 🤷‍♀️

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